So what if you don’t have a house? Your own car. A better paying job. A boyfriend. A girlfriend. A father that cares. A mother that’s not selfish. Long hair. Bigger boobs. Abs of steel. Smaller waist. Firm ass. Bigger penis. Nicer clothes. Smaller feet. Bigger feet. Learn to love and appreciate yourself for what you have and who you are now. Think of all the things and blessings you do have. You were chosen today to wake up. You’re still alive. Life may not be as great as you want it to be, but at least you still have life. Some people walk around with some of the same facetious griefs not realizing that they are overlooking so many blessings. Everyday I try to remember to thank God for all that he’s giving me. I know for a fact that he’s watching over me because of all the things He’s allowed me to survive through. We are going through a powerful economic decline, yet, we are still able to pay our rent, drive our cars, eat our dinners and go to sleep in a nice warm bed. 3 months ago I’ve seen so many blogs complaining about the $4.25 gas prices but now that gas is $1.65, I don’t see anyone rejoicing the new low prices. If you don’t learn to appreciate the things you have now, they will slowly disintegrate. You may not like your job, but at least you have a job. You may not like your college professor, but at least you’re able to attend college. Dinner may have been a bit overcooked, but at least you’re able to have a meal.

Many people take life for granted. Some look at it as if it’s a gift and others look at it as “too much work” or turmoil. We kiss our teeth and roll our eyes over the thought of fighting for our happiness. We sulk when we’re told that we actually have to work for our goals. But when something goes wrong in our life we tend to give up on it. Or even worse, holding someone else responsible when life does’nt give us what we want. Moving day to day, with no plan, no goals and ultimately no rewards. Life is way too short to waste it on negativity. We only get one life so live it up the best way you can. If you have a goal or a dream, go for it. What are you waiting for? To be reincarnated (if that exists)? Because it’s not like you’ll have a another chance after death to accomplish your goals. You got people that haven’t done anything with their life, but wants to spend years complaining about it. Running around whining about how their life is the worse but do nothing to improve it. Laying around mumbling about insignificant bullshit like it’s the end of the world. They went unnoticed, haven’t done anything for themselves and probably just as, if not more, miserable and confused as you are. But the difference between you and them is that you’re making a change with your life. Here we are, not even 30 yet, and already giving up on the blueprint to our serenity.

Relationships or the path to find love will have it’s rough moments. Don’t think for once that it’s “easy” to find love and to keep love. Both entities has it’s ups and downs. It’s your responsibility to embrace those that you have in your life. And if by chance they are not in your life anymore, cherish the memories and be thankful for the time that they were present in it. A lot of us would not be who we are today without that one person to show us the light of our ways. There are far too many times we are remembering the hurt and pain but can’t seem to remember the greater & more joyful things that we have all experienced. The road to finding love will have those potholes. There will be times where you will feel disappointed, rejected, disrespected, hurt, or even violated. Don’t let that stop you on your journey. You will shed a lot of tears and have many frustrating moments. Striving for your happiness will not come easy. There will be times where you are going to lay in bed at night and wonder if you’re ever going to fall hopelessy in love again. Wondering, is this marriage going to work? Am I a good father? Does he love me for who I am?

Don’t be afraid to take a chance. Life is all about risks and learning from your experiences. If you’ve done things that didn’t work, do something else. Failed your classes when your major was Forensics Science?…chose a different major and try again. Got dumped by a girl for the 5th time?…find another one that’s better then the last. If you do absolutely nothing for yourself or for your life how do you expect to have a good one? The only way you’ll receive a reward for what you do is if you worked hard for it. A closed mouth don’t get fed. When you think negatively, you attract negativity. When you confront your life with negative thoughts, you’ll have experiences to confirm what you’re thinking. What you believe people and the world are doing to you is actually a reflection of what your thoughts are drawing to you. Positive thoughts, aspects and goals brings happiness throughout the darkness in your life. The better you are at nurturing, supporting and believing in yourself, the better life gets.